It's normal for a toddler to have temper tantrums. To reduce the frequency, duration or intensity of your child's tantrums:
Know your child's limits. Your child might misbehave because he or she doesn't understand or can't do what you're asking.
Explain how to follow the rules. Instead of saying, "Stop hitting," offer suggestions for how to make play go more smoothly, such as "Why don't you two take turns?"
Take 'no' in stride. Don't overreact when your toddler says no. Instead, calmly repeat your request. You might also try to distract your child or make a game out of good behavior. Your child will be more likely to do what you want if you make an activity fun.
Pick your battles. If you say no to everything, your child is likely to get frustrated. Look for times when it's OK to say yes.
Offer choices, when possible. Encourage your child's independence by letting him or her pick out a pair of pajamas or a bedtime story.
Avoid situations that might trigger frustration or tantrums. For example, don't give your child toys that are too advanced for him or her. Avoid long outings in which your child has to sit still or can't play — or bring along an activity. Also know that children are more likely to act out when they're tired, hungry, sick or in an unfamiliar setting.
Stick to the schedule. Keep a daily routine so that your child will know what to expect.
Encourage communication. Remind your child to use words to express his or her feelings. If your child isn't speaking yet, consider teaching him or her baby sign language to avoid frustration.