First set expectations up front. Make sure everyone is on the same page and remember that school is the number one priority. Let your child know what grades you expect and have consequences established if those achievements are not reached.
Model the behavior you want to have reflected. Don’t take on too many tasks yourself. Lead the way in showing your children how to achieve a balance in life.
Look out for the signs that a student has too much going on in their life. Being too tired, not making time for friends, being more worried and being grouchier (than usual) could mean a child isn’t achieving the proper balance.
Create a schedule and stick to it. If your family members have mobile devices, sync everyone up on the calendar, otherwise go old school and use a dry erase board or a paper calendar and plot out who’s going where each afternoon and evening.
Don’t over do it. Limit activities to one or two a day and plan to take at least one day/night off a week. That will allow for some rest and a chance for the student to stay up on studies and an opportunity for the family to bond. Try to have dinner together as a family as many nights as possible too.
It’s okay to say no. You don’t have to explain why you don’t want to do an activity or participate in an event. Many times when a person gives their time and energy to a group or project, there’s an expectation from others to do the same for or with them. Remember to take care of your needs. This is something to use in high school as well as into adulthood.
Study in spurts. If you’re on the bus headed to or from an event after school use that as a chance to do some homework or studying. Studies have shown quick bursts of studying results in better retention and higher grades on tests.
Students ask for help. If you’re overwhelmed talk to your parents, teachers or coaches. If you need assistance in the classroom, find a classmate who is willing to tudor until you’re back on track. It’s not a failure to ask for help.
In addition to these tips, make sure everyone is getting plenty of sleep. Disconnect from electronics at night and make time for each other along the way. These habits now will come into play later in life and establish pattern for life in the workforce.