Giving your child the chance to play with other children from preschool or playgroup can help him develop friendships.
You can start by talking with your child about who she plays with, why she likes playing with them and what they like to play. Then you can talk to the other parents about playdates, either at your home, at a local park or somewhere else that gives the children plenty of space and things to play with.
Here are some ideas for helping your child make friends during play:
Children behaving aggressively
An occasional disagreement with a friend is normal. But if shouting or hitting starts, you might need to step in and guide the children’s behaviour. In this situation, it’s important to be clear about what needs to stop and why. For example, ‘Please stop pushing each other. You’re both getting hurt’.
Sometimes your child might take some time by herself away from the play. Talking with your child – as well as watching what happens – can help you work out what’s going on.
Playing solo is usually nothing to worry about. In fact, you’ll often see two children playing alongside each other. That’s because children at this age are still learning how to play together.
But if your child seems unsure of how to join in play, is consistently left out by other children, or often doesn’t want to play with others, there are things you can do to help:
During the preschool years, children sometimes say things like ‘You’re not my friend’.
Some children might be hurt by this, and others seem able to shake it off. Often children sort things out and are ‘friends’ again minutes later.
If your child talks about problems playing with friends at preschool, it’s a good idea to talk to your child’s preschool teachers. The teachers can keep an eye on what’s happening and follow up with conversations, stories or activities.
It might help to explain to your child that it’s normal to feel lonely sometimes, and most people don’t get along with everyone they meet. Planning some playdates with other children from preschool might also help your child feel more confident about playing with everyone at preschool.
The outdoors in winter is enjoyed most when you are dressed properly. It is also safer when you are dressed properly. Remember: there is no bad weather, just bad clothing. In winter, the best idea is to stay warm and dry. Being too hot makes you sweat creating moisture. When it is cold outside, being damp is uncomfortable and can be a danger as you will lose body heat more quickly.
Here are a few things to think about when going outside in cold weather.
Be aware of the weather
When the temperature is just above or just below freezing, the chance that you will get wet increases. This is because the air holds more moisture at the freezing point than when the temperature is very cold. When it is very cold it is easier to stay dry. Take a minute to check the weather forecast. Is there precipitation expected? Snow, freezing rain? What is the humidity and temperature? Will the weather be changing while you are out?
Think about what activities you are going to be doing in the cold
Are you going to be very active all the time or on and off? ? Or are you moving at a steady, leisurely pace. Will you be standing around or sitting a lot? The answer to these questions can help you decide what to wear and how much you will need to be able to adapt your clothing to changing activity.
Thanksgiving—a holiday full of elaborate food traditions—can be extra challenging for parents of picky eaters. Who wants a holiday dinner turned into a battle zone filled with whispered bargaining? Fortunately, with a little planning, you can create a balanced Thanksgiving meal the whole family will enjoy!
Here are some tips to appease picky eaters without sacrificing nutrition, straying from Thanksgiving traditions, or creating a lot of extra work.
When my favorite uncle first met my daughter, then age three, he enthusiastically hugged her and gave her a toy he'd brought all the way from Uganda. My daughter wouldn't even hold it, let alone say "Thank you." I was mortified.
My daughter is now 17, and looking back, I realize that many factors could have contributed to her behavior: being unprepared for such exuberance, her natural shyness and biology. Kids under seven have difficulty understanding others' feelings and being internally motivated to do the right thing. Nonetheless, parents can actively, gently instill a sense of gratitude.
The matter goes way beyond etiquette. According to research by the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, "people who practice gratitude feel considerably happier (25%) than those in a control group; they are more joyful, enthusiastic, interested, and determined."
An attitude of gratitude helps us thrive. Try these steps to instill a mind-set of gratitude in your little ones.
Homa S. Tavangar is the author of "Growing up Global: Raising Children to Be at Home in the World," the mother of three children ages 7 to 17, and a frequent speaker to audiences ranging from CEOs to K-12 communities.
While these gestures may seem trivial to adults, they go a long way with your little ones. Here are a few easy tricks to make your child smile.
By Margery D. Rosen from Parents Magazine
Wear that macaroni necklace to work. Well at least until your're safely out the door.
Pools, lakes, ponds, and beaches mean summer fun and cool relief from hot weather. But water also can be dangerous for kids if parents don't take the proper precautions. Nearly 1,000 kids die each year by drowning. And most drownings happen in home swimming pools. It is the second leading cause of accidental death for people between the ages of 5 and 24.
The good news is there are many ways to keep your kids safe in the water — and make sure that they take the right precautions when they're on their own.
Kids need constant supervision around water — whether the water is in a bathtub, a wading pool, an ornamental fish pond, a swimming pool, a spa, the beach, or a lake.
Young children are especially at risk — they can drown in less than 2 inches (6 centimeters) of water. That means drowning can happen where you'd least expect it — the sink, the toilet bowl, fountains, buckets, inflatable pools, or small bodies of standing water around your home, such as ditches filled with rainwater. Always watch children closely when they're in or near any water.
If you're not a swimmer yourself, it's a good idea to take lessons and learn how to swim. And kids over 4 years old should learn, too (check the local recreation center for classes taught by qualified instructors). Kids who are younger (but older than age 1) also might benefit from swimming lessons, but check with your doctor first.
Don't assume that a child who knows how to swim isn't at risk for drowning. All kids need to be supervised in the water, no matter what their swimming skills. And infants, toddlers, and weak swimmers should have an adult swimmer within arm's reach to provide "touch supervision."
Invest in proper-fitting, Coast Guard-approved flotation devices (life vests) and have kids wear them whenever near water. Check the weight and size recommendations on the label, then have your child try it on to make sure it fits snugly. For kids younger than 5 years old, choose a vest with a strap between the legs and head support — the collar will keep the child's head up and face out of the water. Inflatable vests and arm devices such as water wings are not effective protection against drowning.
Don't forget the sunscreen and reapply often, especially if the kids are getting wet. UV sunglasses, hats, and protective clothing also can help provide sun protection.
Kids should drink plenty of fluids, particularly water, to prevent dehydration. It's easy to get dehydrated in the sun, especially when kids are active and sweating. Dizziness, feeling lightheaded, or nausea are just some of the signs of dehydration and overheating.
Water temperature is important, too. Enter the water slowly and make sure it feels comfortable for you and your kids. A temperature below 70°F (20°C) is cold to most swimmers. Recommended water temperatures vary depending on the activity and a swimmer's age, as well as for pregnant women. But in general, 82°-86°F (28°-30°C) is comfortable for recreational swimming for children (babies are more comfortable when the water is on the warmer side of this temperature range).
Body temperature drops more quickly in water than on land, and it doesn't take long for hypothermia (when the body loses heat faster than it can produce it) to set in. If a child is shivering or has muscle cramps, get him or her out of the water immediately.
Ready to Explore..
Kids ages 3-5 have tons of energy and are eager to walk, run, dance, and play. It's a great age for exploration too. Preschoolers learn a lot when given the chance to investigate their environments (with supervision, of course).
There's much for preschoolers to explore. Now that they're older, they can focus their energy and tackle more complex activities like playing dress-up, riding trikes, planting seeds, or building something out of snow.
With patience and some imagination, you can help your preschooler be a safe and happy explorer.
There are hundreds of articles on the internet that provide checklists and guidance to parents when choosing a preschool for their child. We have provided links to some great ones at the end of this article. One thing they all have in common is the importance of parents asking questions before making their decision.
Many questions that parents ask focus on academics and learning?
Financial considerations are important
But don't overlook questions about how the preschool fits into your daily life.and your overall family needs.
Before making your final decision, it is important to make a visit to the school/ classroom. and bring your child with you if possible. Watch how the staff interacts with him/her. Do they bend down and talk directly with your child? Do they make efforts to engage in conversation?Are they welcoming? Do they take time to answer your questions? Do your feel respected and listened to?. Remember, you leave your child with people, not a building. One of the most important ingredients to a successful experience for your child (and for you) is the relationships you have with the administrator and teacher. In the end, trust your instincts.. Be confident that you know what is best for your family and your child.
Want to learn more- here are some other resources to help in your decision.
Choosing the right Preschool program for your child is a big decision.This is the first in a serie of article to help parents make informed choice.
Understanding the different types of programs is an important first step.
Head Start is a federally funded program that promotes school readiness through high quality programming and serves children ages three to five. Priority enrollment is given to low-income families. Head Start offers comprehensive services including early childhood education, health, nutrition, parent involvement and support services to families. Head Start programs are licensed by DCFS. The majority of Head Start programs are offered half day, although some full day “slots” may be available. The traditionally follow school calendars.and most offer transportation. No fees are charged for Head Start services.
State- funded Pre-Kindergarten programs (also known as Preschool for All) brings together qualified staff, a proven curriculum and parent involvement to help prepare children for success in school. High quality PreK programs are offered in participating public and private schools and also located within some child care centers. Enrollment is open to children ages three to five and priority is given to children with the greatest need based on a number of risk factors. There are no fees charged to the family. State funded PreK programs programs are typically half day (although some full day PreK programs are now available in some communities) and follow school calendars.
Private PreK preschool programs are also an option for families. They offer similar programming but do not receive state or federal funds. These programs are part day and follow the school calendar. Fees are charged to families for participation.
Licensed Child Care Centers offers full day, full year quality programming that supports young children and their working families. Child care offers preschool and child care in one setting which is important to working parents who can't transport their child from setting to setting during the day. Child care centers are individually operated, licensed by DCFS, and most do not receive any outside funding. The state funds a Child Care Assistance Program (CCAP) that helps eligible families pay their child care fees. If smaller child care settings are a better match for your child, information about licensed Family Child Care Homes and Group Homes is available through CCR&R at 1-800-548-5563.
ExceleRate Illinois is the state’s quality recognition system awarding Circle of Quality designations to programs for their efforts. The higher the awarded designation, the more each provider makes meaningful improvements to their program that better prepare children for school and life. All three types of programs listed above are eligible to participate in this voluntary system.
CCR&R at John A Logan College has trained early childhood specialists who can answer your questions about the different preschool options and provide resource lists of programs in your community.
As parents and caregivers, we can make choices to ensure time spent with our children is high-quality. Here are nine tips for busy families:
Excerpt from Tips for Spending Quality Time With Your Child Author:: Jessica Alvarado www.families.naeyc.org