T.M.A.D. (Teens Making a Difference) a Non-Profit Christian Youth Organization in Herrin is offering a fun filled Summer Youth program every Tuesday and Wednesday throughout the Summer months.
The program is being offered to children from PreK through 5th Grade and runs from 10 am- 3 pm and runs from June 6th to August 2nd. Activities include recreation/field trips, music, drama, dance, home economics, art and community outreach. The program is being held at the groups Youth Centers at 313 & 317 N Park Ave
Admission is by donation and the recommended donation is $5 per child per day if you are able. All donations go toward the funding of the community youth center's programming.
T.M.A.D. is not associated with any specific denomination or church and they invite all people to be a part of T.M.A.D. Inc. regardless of denomination, race or background.
For additional questions call (618) 534-8928.
When you first became a grandparent, you may have been expecting a fabulous experience: grandkids who adored you endlessly; their parents who turned to you for support and advice.
But perhaps things haven't turned out to be quite so idyllic. I hear questions all the time from grandparents who wonder why they're getting a cool response instead of boundless enthusiasm from their own kids — and their grandkids. Here are five pieces of advice that I'd like to share.
1. Don't tell your kids how to raise their children. Avoid judging their parenting style and bite your tongue unless they ask for your advice. If you disagree with their decisions — and you will, sooner or later — keep quiet. Your job is to be the grandparent, not the parent. Instead, respect their parenting efforts and look for reasons to complement them. Accept that the approaches to raising children vary from one generation to the next and your kids may do things differently from the way you did. Being a parent is hard work, and most parents are unsure of their parenting skills, whether they admit it or not. The parents of your grandchildren don't need you harping on their biggest fears and making them feel worse. The more they see you as criticizing, the more defensive they will feel and a rift can quickly form. The more they see you as supportive, the more open they will be to establishing a strong relationship.
Focus on being positive and supportive, not invasive, and you'll be a big hit as a grandparent.
2. Don't forget how to say no. Never commit to babysitting or ongoing child care if you really don't want to do it. You will end up feeling resentment. Remember, you're entitled to have a life, too. When you offer or accept the request to care for grandchildren, go in with your eyes wide open and set some boundaries. You may be willing to make some sacrifices for your grandchildren and welcome the opportunity to care for them, but don't feel you have to spend every possible moment with them. Live your own life with balance and you'll be a great role model. When it comes to gifts for grandchildren, the same rules apply. Don't allow yourself to be "guilted" into spending more money on grandkids than you can afford. If their parents rely on you to pay for extras or even basics, consider your own financial security and remember that even the little things add up. Have the intention of generosity, but be prudent. Otherwise, you may end up needing their help. Grandparents often say the difference between a grandparent and a parent is that what they do for grandchildren is a choice, not an obligation. Make good choices with your time and finances.
3. Don't compete. Many grandparents fall into the deep dark "I'm the best grandma or grandpa" abyss. Competing grandparents only alienate their children and can ultimately make their grandchildren feel pressured and uncomfortable. When you set up relationships as competition, you're setting a dangerous precedent for your family and, quite frankly, being a lousy role model. Families have all kinds of varied relationships these days, which may result in kids having multiple grandparents. The good news is that the more loving adults there are in children's lives, the better chances they have for success. So be glad there are other grandparents in the picture and know that your grandchildren can be close to all their grandparents. You are all different people and will be different kinds of grandparents. One grandma may be the outdoor enthusiast; another may be the one to teach a grandchild how to paint her nails. One may have more money to spend, but another may have more time. Celebrate your differences and enjoy what you have in common.
4. Don't disregard parental rules. Ideas about discipline, snack foods and TV time can be hot button issues. Be careful not to stretch the limits. Talk over the non-negotiable rules that are important to your children. But also introduce the idea that in your home, you should be able to have some rules of your own. For example, your grandchildren may not be allowed to eat in front of the TV at their house, but in your home you permit it. Make sure parents are aware, and also make sure grandkids know that you respect their parents' decisions. Grandparents love to spoil their grandchildren now and then — it's one of the perks of the role, right? If it's all "up front," and non-negotiable rules are honored, parents are much more likely to smile and look the other way.
5. Don't be too pushy. Resist the urge to insist on seeing your grandchildren all the time. Instead, let your kids — and later on your grandkids — come to you.
your availability, but don't insist on unwanted or inconvenient get-togethers. Understand that you won't always be a top priority for your grandkids. They will inevitably go through times when they are more interested in their activities and friends than in spending time with you. Let it be, but also let them know you love them no matter what. Remember that part of growing up is learning about setting boundaries, so when grandkids withdraw, pushing them is the worst approach. Listen, don't lecture. Be their safe place and they will come around eventually. Your grandchildren may not let on that you're having an impact on them, but in the long run most adults will say their best memories of grandparents are of always feeling wanted and accepted. Focus on being positive and supportive, not invasive, and you'll be a big hit as a grandparent
Author:by Amy Goyer, November 9, 2010|
There are many warning signs that may indicate that someone is affected by bullying—either being bullied or bullying others. Recognizing the warning signs is an important first step in taking action against bullying. Not all children who are bullied or are bullying others ask for help.
It is important to talk with children who show signs of being bullied or bullying others. These warning signs can also point to other issues or problems, such as depression or substance abuse. Talking to the child can help identify the root of the problem.
Signs a Child is Being Bullied
Look for changes in the child. However, be aware that not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.
Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:
Signs a Child is Bullying Others
Kids may be bullying others if they:
Statistics from the 2012 Indicators of School Crime and Safety show that an adult was notified in less than half (40%) of bullying incidents. Kids don’t tell adults for many reasons:
No single factor puts a child at risk of being bullied or bullying others. Bullying can happen anywhere—cities, suburbs, or rural towns. Depending on the environment, some groups—such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered (LGBT) youth, youth with disabilities, and socially isolated youth—may be at an increased risk of being bullied.
Children at Risk of Being Bullied
Generally, children who are bullied have one or more of the following risk factors:
Children More Likely to Bully Others
There are two types of kids who are more likely to bully others:
Spring break is the time of year when many families head for the beach and warmer weather. But you don't have to go to far away places for for your kids to have some swimming fun.
In addition to its Open Swim/ Lap times, the Carbondale Park District is sponsoring its popular " No School, Head to the Pool" swimming session at the Life Community Center on Thursday March 16th at 1:00 pm,
It doesn't need to be Spring Break to enjoy the District's Parent/Child Friday Night Swim This regularly scheduled swim session is for families to enjoy our heated, indoor pool during a time when no lessons or fitness classes are scheduled. An adult family member (parent, guardian, grandparent, aunt, uncle, etc.) must accompany youth to pool area and remain in the pool or on the deck at all times. The cost is $5.00 per family (up to 4; each additional person is $1.00). Older kids and more seasoned swimmers might prefer the scheduled Slidin at the Pool special event scheduled for Friday March 18th from 5:00 -7:00 pm. For more information call 618-549-4222.
Just down the road in Marion, the Hub offers a variety of swimming and pool fun options.
The Hub's recreation pool plays host to a waterslide, lazy river, basketball hoop, volleyball net, exercise area, vortex, and wading area with a sprayground play feature and is open from 4pm- 8 pm Monday through Friday with longer hours on Saturday and Sunday. All children 10 and under must be directly supervised by an adult in the Heartland Regional Aquatics Center.l A full pool schedule can be found HERE or you can call the Hub at 618-997-2HUB.
Both pools offer families great swimming opportunities. Dive in and have some fun!
Finding something to do with your kids during Spring Break can be a challenge for many parents. Some families need a place for their children to be while they are working while other parents look for activities to help create a "staycation" making the week more enjoyable for all. Great news! Southern Illinois parents have some great Spring Break Camp options from which to choose. Registration is required and spots can fill up quickly. Don't wait to make plans for your child's Spring Break- it;s just around the corner.
Spring Break Camp at the Hub -Registration Deadline is March 1st. The Hub is offering a Dr Suess themed week for children ages 4-13. Swimming is included in the daily activities. The cost is $2o per day for Hubbers and $30 a day for non members.
The Science Center in Carbondale is hosting two Spring Break mini camps, Little Rockers (Ages 4-8) and Rock On (Ages 8+.). Little Rockers will be offered March 14th and 15th amd Rock on will be offered on March 16th and 17th. Both camps will be held. from 11 am- 4pm. Kids will have opportunities for hand-on science activities and experiments in these two day camps. Healthy snacks and water are provided but children should have lunch before they come. Member Pricing: $40 for full camp and $25 for one day **Registration deadline is March 11th by 6:00 pm, and NO LATE REGISTRATIONS will be accepted.
Ultimate Gymnastics also offers some great activities during Spring Break.at their March Break Camp. Spend a Full Day, Half Day or Full Week with us. Call us today 344-FLIP.
And just added... Boys and Girls Club in Carbondale is offering some Spring Break Fun!
Bring your kids to the BGCC for our Oceanography: Exploring the Ocean week. We will end the week with a "poolside theatre" in the gym and watch Moana. Current member no additional cost, new members only $20.00. 12 pm - 5 pm daily and lunch is provided!
Call (618) 457-8877 for more information.
What is your child doing this Spring Break? - We would love to hear!
Want more family joy and deeper meaning this holiday season? It's possible!
The key is simplifying, so you can focus on what matters. Taking on too much will stress you out and sabotage the meaningful, warm feeling you want for your family. Nobody can spread joy and good cheer when they're rushing.
So first, just say no to everything that feels obligatory. Then, consider what you love about your holidays. Consider what no longer feels in keeping with your values. Maybe the traditions you have work for you, but you want to make a few tweaks. Maybe you'll add a new one this year, that better expresses the values you want to model for your children.
You’ll find your traditions gain meaning as you revisit them every year, regardless of what holiday you celebrate. In fact, that's what makes traditions. It can be as simple as having the same breakfast every morning on Christmas -- if you do it every year, your children will take great pleasure in it. If you ask your children what they love most about the holidays, don't be surprised if they mention the little things you've barely noticed.
Then, limit yourself to trying one or two new things this year that you think might add meaning to your family's holiday. Don’t expect perfection. Don't worry about getting it on instagram; just enjoy it in the moment.
And here’s an early gift to make it easier: 50 ideas for possible Family Traditions to get your creativity flowing as you think about what would most nurture your soul, and your family's, this winter. Remember, this list is to inspire you, not pressure you. Just pick one or two!
Kids who show gratitude are happier and have better grades according to the Wall Street Journal. More to this, people who show gratitude sleep better, have more energy and are more positive as they connect with people. So how do you instill this quality in your kids?
1. Lead by example.
Your desire to make your kids grateful starts from you. Give to those in need and involve your kids in the process. Let them see what is involved. By offering some of your items to those in need you prove to your kids that you are thankful for all that you have and that you are willing to share a piece of it.
2. Interact with your kids.
Talking to your kids reveal their motives and desires. Are they grateful for all that they have? What are the three things that they are most appreciative of in their day or from the past? By engaging them in questions and filtering through their thoughts you are able to make them realize the need of being grateful.
3. Urge them to be grateful.
There are opportunities that could arise that spontaneously test them and offer them the chance to show gratitude. Do not rebuke them for showing gratitude even if they may have gone overboard in performing this good deed. Always present them with an atmosphere for expressing their gratitude.
For parents who grew up in the United States, homework is a fact of life that is as American as apple pie. Many educators believe that homework is an essential tool for helping children learn. They believe that homework can help children develop important study skills, learn how to manage time, and encourage independence and responsibility.
For children and parents, homework can sometimes seem like a burden that can cause frustration and tears. It may also take time away from families having fun together.
Research by Dr. Harris Cooper at Duke University shows that children who do more homework in high school (up to 90 minutes) tend to do better in school, but there is little evidence for homework affecting learning during the elementary years. Many experts agree that homework can have both positive and negative effects on children’s learning and attitudes towards school.
There are many things that parents can do to help with homework. But more importantly, HOW the help can determine whether the experience is helpful rather than harmful.
What You Can Do
Parents can help children develop good study habits if they:
For health-conscious parents, Halloween can be tricky. Do you set limits? Do you let kids decide how much to eat?
There isn't just one right answer. Instead, use your best judgment based on your child's personality and eating habits. Kids who generally eat just a couple of pieces and save the rest might be trusted to decide how much to eat. But if your child tends to overdo it, consider setting limits.
Here are some more tips for handling the Halloween treats:
And remember that Halloween, like other holidays, is a single day on the calendar. If your family eats sensibly during the rest of the year, it will have a more lasting impact than a few days of overindulgence.
Reviewed by: Steven Dowshen, MD
Date reviewed: October 2014